From the outside, I looked like I had it all. I had a fantastic job behind the scenes in theatre and TV, I was the life and soul of the party, and always had an answer for everything, but it was all a lie. I was actually hiding big insecurities and in constant fear.
I compared myself to everyone, wondering how the hell they had their lives together, and I didn't. I looked for confidence in all the wrong places - food, nicotine, relationships, alcohol, drugs. I didn't want to fail so avoided doing things.
I didn't like myself and couldn't understand why anyone else would either. Things got so bad that I thought the world would be a better place without me in it. Luckily, I failed at making that a reality, but knew something needed to change.
Hitting rock bottom changed things.
In my mid-thirties, I embarked, unknowingly, on a journey of self discovery, one that I have been privileged enough to guide many others on over the years. It started with one session of counselling, and that led me to coaching, the process that changed my life in ways I could not have imagined.
In 2004, I had the opportunity to train as a coach. My business, Positive Belief, was launched the following year, and I have been coaching and speaking with people ever since. It was never a strategic career plan, I believe that my business started me, not the other way around.
Over the years, I trained in numerous methodologies. I travelled the world to learn from the best teachers, worked with amazing mentors and coaches. I challenged myself with fire walks, abseils, iron bends, arrow breaks and silent retreats! I committed to my continual learning and personal development.
Through this I discovered that confidence is directly connected to trust. Knowing that changed everything for me.
When you truly trust yourself, transformation becomes not only possible but inevitable.
If the 2004 version of me was to meet me now, she would be amazed. I wouldn't have thought it was possible to live a naturally confident life, but here I am.
It was possible for me and it IS possible for you.
When you learn to trust, have patience and self compassion, and to treat yourself with kindness, authentic confidence is readily available.
We've been taught that confidence comes from others. That it comes from how we look and what we do, what we achieve or what we have, but it's not true. Relying on anything outside ourselves is not the solution. Confidence is an inside job!
It's time for a Confidence Revolution and a Conscious Transformation!
Working with me isn't for everyone.
That's why I offer a complimentary 30 minute chemistry call to discuss your needs and check I am the right coach for you.
Before you get in touch, here's what you need to know:
What I don't offer:
- A magic wand
- A comforting 'there, there'
- Surface-level quick fixes.
What I do offer:
- A safe place to explore what's going on for you
- Constructive challenge and questions to invite new thinking
- New perspectives based on age-old wisdom
- Sustainable transformation for all aspects of your life.
If you're ready to make a difference in your own life, willing to embrace new perspectives, experience a non-judgemental conversation, and prepared to invest effort, time and money in yourself, let's get started.
Here's what clients have to say about coaching with me.
Laura
Have you ever met someone and known instantly that they're going to be important in your life? That was me with Jules.
I went into our chemistry call thinking I was looking for help with one thing, but by the time the thirty minutes were up, I realised I was looking for something totally different.
I found our sessions challenging, in the best possible way, and I always felt seen and heard.
It turns out I needed someone to provide unflinching honesty, objectively call me out on certain behaviours, and generally push me to see things differently, and Jules did that in a way that made me feel safe instead of judged.
Lorraine
I've been working with Jules for the last 6 months and the results have been outstanding. Thanks to our fortnightly calls, I feel that I've progressively grown and developed not only a new confidence in myself, but also new perceptions and a greater awareness of the impact my perceptions have on the outer world.
Richard
I was asked to attend as part of my personal development and thought, 'ok, I'll give it a go, what harm can it do?' I had no idea what to expect. I found the first hour quite difficult as Jules has a way of asking questions which really make you think hard.... but 6 sessions later, I have to say the time spent with Jules has been a revelation. I have learnt so much about myself that wasn't clear before we started. It has allowed me to be calmer in more challenging situations and helped me to deal with some very tough situations and reflect on them in a different manner. I would recommend Jules to anyone who wants to develop themselves. Put simply, she is superb!
