I get it. Because it was me.
I became very adept at pretending to be confident. Very few people knew how insecure, self-critical and self-doubting I was.
Most didn't see how it was impacting my life - sleepless nights, heavy drinking, recreational drug use, over-eating, and crippling indecision.
I had a great career working backstage in theatre and TV (backstage because being on stage was too intimidating!)
I pretended to be loud and look happy. I acted as if I knew more than I did. I avoided and procrastinated because I didn't want to fail. I played it small and safe.
But that changed. I had a personal breakthrough that if I wanted to have more self confidence, I would have to learn to trust myself.